
But As For Us | Titus 2
• Series: Titus
Titus 2: But As For You Good morning, church! Let me begin with a question: Have you ever tried to bake cookies and accidentally used salt instead of sugar? I’ve made that mistake before, and let’s just say the results were unforgettable—but not in a good way! While salt and sugar may look similar, they serve entirely different purposes. And that’s something I want us to think about this morning: as Christians, we are called to be the salt of the earth, not the sugar. Salt preserves, enhances, and even heals. Sugar, on the other hand, blends in and makes everything sweeter. That’s not how a Christian is meant to live in the world. Our lives are meant to contrast with the world, not fit into it. The idea of contrast is central to the Christian life. Contrast highlights differences. Comparison on the other hand, is looking for similarities. The problem is, we sometimes forget that we are supposed to stand out. We are called to be different. Romans 12:2 reminds us of this: "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." Jesus tells us in Matthew 5:13-16 (ESV): "You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden." Salt and light stand out—they influence their environment rather than conform to it. When Christians try to blend in, we risk losing our effectiveness, like salt that has lost its flavor. Instead of finding ways to embrace the difference Christ calls us to, we start comparing ourselves to the world and aiming to fit in. We think our goal is to be “just like everyone else, but with a Bible on the shelf and a cross around our necks.” But that’s not the kind of witness Jesus envisioned. Paul also warns against comparison in 2 Corinthians 10:12 (ESV): "Not that we dare to classify or compare ourselves with some of those who are commending themselves. But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding." When we compare ourselves with the world—or even with other Christians—we lose sight of the standard that truly matters: the holiness of God. Our transformation in Christ isn’t about looking just like the world but adding a touch of spirituality. We should have more differences than praying before meals and going to a church service on Sundays. It’s about radical renewal—a life that reflects God’s goodness in every area. Our text today from Titus 2 is going to show us that we are called to live in contrast to the world, not for our own glory but to point others to Jesus. Paul shows us that men and women of God have a vital role in teaching the next generation to live differently—rooted in grace, truth, and godliness. This isn’t about blending in; it’s about standing out as examples of Christ’s transforming power. Let’s dive into this passage and discover how we can embrace this calling, passing on a legacy of faith that shines brightly in a dark world. The Call to Godly Living in Every Stage of Life (Titus 2:1-10) This section begins with a clear and direct charge for Titus: “But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine.” And some of you may remember, I’ve mentioned before that I’ve thought about doing a teaching series called The Biggest "Buts" in the Bible. Well, Titus 2 kicks off with a big “but”! Let’s unpack this a bit—pun definitely intended. When Paul writes, “But as for you,” it’s as if he’s pointing directly at Titus, saying, “You’re not like them. You have a different calling.” Picture a coach pulling you aside during practice, saying, “I need you to step up and lead, no matter what everyone else is doing.” Paul is making it personal, reminding Titus that while others may distort the truth and lead people astray, his responsibility is to stand firm and faithfully teach what is true. His task is to “teach what accords with sound doctrine” —which means rightly teaching what God has said through His Word rather than what people want to hear. This is CONTRASTING the previous section of his letter for Titus. He’s referring to the false teachers, the people who were spreading myths and distorting the truth, leading others astray. These individuals were more concerned with gaining followers than faithfully teaching God’s Word. The phrase “teach what accords with sound doctrine” emphasizes that belief and behavior are inseparable. What we believe shapes how we live, and true faith naturally produces godly actions. But sound doctrine isn’t just about having the right answers or presenting theology in a way that sounds impressive. Sound doctrine shapes lives. It’s truth that aligns with God’s Word and leads to godly living, not just knowledge. In this way, sound doctrine is like the foundation of a house—it supports and shapes everything built on top of it. Without a strong foundation, the structure of our faith wobbles under pressure. Teaching sound doctrine, then, means not only filling minds with knowledge but demonstrating how to live in light of the gospel. Belief rooted in truth results in behavior that honors God, proving that what we believe and how we live are intricately connected. James 2:26 (ESV) states, “For as the body apart from the spirit is dead, so also faith apart from works is dead.” Genuine faith—our belief in God and His truth—will always result in corresponding actions. A profession of faith without evidence in behavior is incomplete, just as a body without life is incomplete. Paul’s focus here is clear: Titus must stand out from the false teachers not by blending in or competing with their clever arguments, but by faithfully teaching and applying the truth. For us, the lesson is the same. Our faith isn’t meant to be a passive agreement with the truth—it’s meant to be a living demonstration of it. We’re called to stand firm, teaching and living in a way that shows the contrast between the false promises of the world and the hope we have in Christ. It’s so that lives can be changed and the gospel can be a light to those living in the darkness of sin. Paul’s charge doesn’t stop with Titus. He knew, in order for the church and its members to be healthy and thriving, those with the most experience—older men and women—must model the faith in both character and action to the next generation. Keep in mind that the definition of "older" in Paul's time was quite different from ours today. Back then, being considered "older" usually referred to someone who was middle-aged or mature—generally anyone 35 and up. Continuing with verse 2, Titus 2:2 “Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness.” Call to Older Men: Anchors of Faith and Character Back in Titus 1, Paul described the destructive outcomes of flesh-driven living. The false teachers in Crete were insubordinate, self-serving, and deceitful (Titus 1:10-11). Their behavior demonstrated what happens when human desires are left unchecked—they lead to corruption and chaos, both in doctrine and daily life. In Titus 2:2, Paul presents a different vision for older men within the church: one of stability, maturity, and influence rooted in faith, love, and endurance. These qualities are not only evidence of personal growth but they contrast with the disordered lives of the false teachers. It’s a call for older men to rise above fleshly impulses and display lives shaped by the Spirit’s power. This should remind all of us that the Christian life is not a passive stroll but an active battle. Galatians 5:17 puts it plainly: “For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh.” The tension between flesh and Spirit challenges us to examine whether our lives are shaped by human impulses or by God’s transformative grace. Let’s explore how the Spirit equips us to overcome the flesh and live in a way that glorifies Christ. Contrasting the Godly Traits with the flesh Sober-Minded To be sober-minded means to think clearly and exercise sound judgment. It reflects a seriousness of purpose and an ability to stay focused on what truly matters. The sober-minded man doesn’t allow his emotions or desires to cloud his thinking; he views life through the lens of God’s truth. In contrast, the flesh craves distraction and indulgence. It encourages recklessness, impulsivity, and a pursuit of temporary pleasures that ultimately lead away from God. A sober-minded man resists these urges, choosing instead to stay grounded in faith and wisdom. Dignified Dignity speaks to a life marked by respectability and integrity. A dignified man carries himself in a way that inspires trust and reflects a deep sense of responsibility. His actions align with his faith, making him a living example of the gospel. The flesh, however, is prone to selfishness and pride. It seeks attention, gratification, and shortcuts to honor rather than the hard-earned respect that comes through humility and faithful living. Self-Controlled Self-control is the ability to master one’s impulses, desires, and emotions. It reflects a life that is disciplined and in submission to the Spirit. A self-controlled man chooses what is right over what is easy, prioritizing God’s will above his own. The flesh resists self-control at every turn. It thrives on indulgence, whether through anger, greed, lust, or laziness. Where the Spirit calls for restraint and discipline, the flesh tempts us to give in to whatever feels good in the moment. Paul also calls older men to be “sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness.” This is about stability—holding firm to your faith, showing Christ-like love, and enduring life’s challenges with grace. But that steadfastness? It’s not passive. It’s an active endurance, meeting trials head-on with a strength that comes from God. Guys! These qualities aren’t just lofty ideals. They aren’t out of reach for us. They form a blueprint for godly character. But here’s the key: they don’t come automatically with age. While time might bring wisdom and experience, true godliness requires the transforming work of the Holy Spirit. These traits are the natural outgrowth of a life maturing in Christ—not something achieved through willpower, but the result of walking closely with God. As we grow in faith, our lives begin to display the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23)—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Being of sober mind flows from peace and self-control, dignity emerges from a life shaped by love and kindness, and steadfastness springs from faithfulness and trust in God. Here’s the bottom line: older men have a vital role in the church. You’re not just called to finish your race well—you’re called to set the pace for those coming behind you. Your life should be a living example of how the gospel transforms people. It’s about showing what godliness looks like in action, day in and day out. So, if you’re an older man in the faith, take this as a challenge. The world needs your wisdom, your faithfulness, and your godly example. And for the rest of us? Let’s honor and learn from the men who model this kind of steadfast, Spirit-filled life. That’s how we grow together as a church that glorifies God. Paul also gives instructions for the older women in the congregation. Titus 2:3–5 ESV 3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. Older Women: Reverent in Behavior, Teachers of Good Ladies, you have an important and irreplaceable role in the church. Paul begins by encouraging women to live with reverence in their behavior. This is about more than outward actions—it reflects a heart that values God above all else. In our culture, where social media influencers often promote self-indulgence and personal image, reverence looks completely different. It’s living with an awareness that your life belongs to God and is meant to honor Him. This quiet strength sets you apart, showing others what it means to live for something greater than yourself. Paul also warns against being slanderers. In today’s world, where gossip and criticism spread quickly—especially online—it’s easy to fall into the trap of using words carelessly. Yet Paul challenges you to rise above this. Instead of tearing others down and being critical, your words can bring encouragement and truth. When social media rewards sharp criticism and controversy, choosing to speak with kindness and grace becomes a powerful way to reflect Christ. He addresses another pitfall: being enslaved to too much wine. In Paul’s time, excessive drinking was a way to cope with the struggles of life, and the same is true today with various forms of escapism. Our culture often normalizes indulgence—whether it’s substances, entertainment, or distractions. But Paul reminds us that anything controlling our actions becomes a form of bondage. Self-control, by contrast, is about living with freedom and intention, allowing God to guide our choices rather than being ruled by fleeting desires. Beyond these warnings, Paul gives a vision of what godly women can be: teachers of good things. This isn’t about having a formal platform or a title—it’s about using your life experiences to guide and encourage others. While many influencers focus on promoting their own image or selling a lifestyle, you have the opportunity to influence others by pointing them to Christ. Whether it’s mentoring a younger woman, offering practical wisdom, or simply being present in someone’s life, your example has lasting value. Discipleship often happens in small, everyday moments. It could be helping a young mom who’s feeling overwhelmed, encouraging a friend going through a hard time, or modeling patience in difficult situations. In a culture that emphasizes independence and self-promotion, walking alongside others in love and humility shows a different way—a way rooted in Christ. Paul concludes with a reminder that how we live impacts how others view the gospel. He says these qualities are important “so that the word of God may not be reviled.” When Paul says, “so that the word of God may not be reviled” (Titus 2:5, ESV), he’s reminding us that the way we live reflects directly on the message of the gospel. Our actions either confirm its truth or give others reason to doubt it. This is something we’re all responsible for—together. When we live with love, integrity, self-control, and good works, we show the world that God’s word is true and powerful. Our lives become living evidence of the transformation the gospel brings. But let’s be honest with ourselves—there are times when our actions don’t match our beliefs. Maybe we’ve spoken harshly when we should have been patient, or we’ve let pride or selfishness cloud the way we treat others. I’ve been there, too. When that happens, it doesn’t just reflect poorly on us—it can cause others to question the message we claim to believe. This is why we need to lean on God’s grace and support one another as we strive to live in a way that brings glory to Him. Ladies, your role is significant. You have the chance to influence your families, communities, and churches in ways that reflect God’s truth and grace. By living differently from what our culture celebrates, you show what it means to follow Christ. Your faithfulness makes an eternal impact, not just for today but for generations to come. "Living Out Godly Character: Paul’s Call to Younger Men" Titus 2:6–8 ESV 6 Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. 7 Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, 8 and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us. As we look at Paul’s instructions to younger men, we see a challenge that applies to all of us: the call to self-control. In a culture that often celebrates indulgence and instant gratification, self-control stands out as a vital discipline. We need to learn to manage our impulses and desires in ways that honor God. For instance, how often do we find ourselves mindlessly scrolling through social media or spending too much time on entertainment? Choosing self-control might mean setting limits so we can focus on what really matters—our relationships, responsibilities, and ultimately, our walk with God. In the workplace, it could mean responding to criticism with patience and humility instead of snapping back in frustration. These moments of discipline reveal hearts that seek to follow God, not fleeting emotions or worldly distractions. Paul also calls us to be models of good works, reminding us that our actions speak louder than words. Let’s think about the opportunities we have each day to live this out. Maybe it’s offering to help a coworker who’s overwhelmed, volunteering for a cause we care about, or simply keeping our word, even when it’s inconvenient. The world around us often praises self-promotion and ambition, but when we quietly serve others without seeking recognition, we show the humility and love of Christ. Together, we can ask ourselves: How do our daily actions reflect our faith? Are we pointing others to God through the way we live? Integrity and sound speech are just as important. Living with integrity means our words and actions match—we’re the same person in private as we are in public. Let’s be honest, though: this can be tough. Maybe we encourage others to be kind but struggle to practice that same kindness when someone tests our patience. Sound speech challenges us to use our words wisely. Instead of gossiping, making harsh comments, or engaging in crude jokes, we’re called to speak in ways that build others up. Whether we’re at home, at work, or with friends, our speech should reflect the God we serve. Paul’s teaching isn’t just theoretical; it’s a practical guide for living in a way that glorifies God. As we embrace self-control, serve others, live with integrity, and use our words to uplift, we make the gospel visible to the world around us. Scriptures like Proverbs 16:32 remind us, “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city” (ESV), challenging us to value self-discipline. And in Matthew 5:16, Jesus says, “Let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven” (ESV). Adorning the Gospel in Everyday Life Paul’s final bit of instruction to Titus in this section is significant, especially within the cultural and historical context of the Roman Empire, where bondservants, or slaves, made up a substantial portion of the population. By addressing bondservants directly, Paul acknowledges their humanity, their worth in the eyes of God, and their ability to glorify Him through their conduct. This challenges us to reflect on how we, in our own roles—whether as employees, students, caregivers, or leaders—can live in a way that brings honor to Christ. Like the bondservants of Paul’s time, we are called to display integrity, humility, and faithfulness, even in the face of difficult or unjust circumstances. Let’s read Paul’s words. Titus 2:9–10 ESV 9 Bondservants are to be submissive to their own masters in everything; they are to be well-pleasing, not argumentative, 10 not pilfering, but showing all good faith, so that in everything they may adorn the doctrine of God our Savior. Paul first encourages bondservants to be submissive to their masters in everything. Now, this isn’t about blind obedience or allowing oneself to be mistreated. It’s about showing respect and fulfilling duties with a heart that seeks to honor God, no matter the circumstances. For us today, this might mean showing diligence in our work, even when no one is watching, or approaching difficult tasks with a positive attitude. It’s about prioritizing service over personal preference, all while recognizing that ultimately, we obey God above all else. It’s similar to Acts 5:29, where the apostles say, “We must obey God rather than men.” Paul also warns against being argumentative. In today’s context, this could be seen in how we handle criticism or instructions at work or in our personal lives. Instead of responding with defensiveness or frustration, we’re called to approach situations with humility, seeking peace rather than conflict. It’s about choosing to express concerns in a respectful, private manner rather than challenging authority in a way that could undermine unity. This attitude is a reflection of Christ’s spirit in us. Then, Paul stresses the importance of integrity. He tells bondservants not to be pilfering but to show good faith in all things. They were often seen as untrustworthy, but Paul calls them to rise above these stereotypes. For us, this might mean being honest with our time, resources, and commitments—avoiding shortcuts or taking advantage of leniency, even when it seems harmless. It’s about building trust and demonstrating the transformation that the gospel brings to our lives. This extends to striving for excellence in everything, not to gain approval from others, but as an act of worship to God. As Paul says in Colossians 3:23, “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” Ultimately, Paul’s goal is that our conduct would “adorn the doctrine of God our Savior.” In other words, our actions should make the gospel more beautiful, more appealing. When we choose integrity, kindness, and humility, even when it’s difficult, we reflect the transformation that Christ brings. It’s a living testimony to the power of the gospel, showing the world that the message of Jesus isn’t just words—it’s a life-changing truth. This is something we can all live out, no matter our role in life. Whether we’re at work, at home, or in the community, we have the opportunity to live in a way that draws others to the beauty of the gospel. Every stage of life has purpose Titus 2:1-10 reminds us that every stage of life has a purpose in God’s plan, and we are all called to live in ways that honor Him. Paul’s instructions to older men, older women, younger women, younger men, and bondservants show us that no matter where we are in life, we have a role to play in reflecting the gospel. Older men and women are to model godly character, using their wisdom and experiences to guide and encourage the next generation. Younger men and women are urged to live with self-control, integrity, and love, showing what a life transformed by the gospel looks like. Even bondservants—those in roles often overlooked or undervalued—are called to glorify God through their daily work, reminding us that every responsibility is an opportunity to honor Christ. These verses challenge us to see every season of life as meaningful in God’s kingdom. For those of us who are older, we are called to bear fruit in our maturity and to be examples of steadfastness and faith Psalm 92:12–14 “The righteous flourish like the palm tree and grow like a cedar in Lebanon. They are planted in the house of the Lord; they flourish in the courts of our God. They still bear fruit in old age; they are ever full of sap and green,” For those of us who are younger, we are invited to build a foundation of faith and obedience, stepping into the purpose God has for us (1 Timothy 4:12). Together, no matter our stage or role, we are tasked with living distinctively in a world marked by self-indulgence and rebellion. Our lives are meant to reflect the transformative power of God’s grace, pointing others to Him through both our words and our actions. But why should we live this way? What motivates us to be so countercultural? The next section, Titus 2:11-15, answers this question. It reminds us that our calling to live differently is rooted in the grace of God revealed through Jesus Christ. Because Jesus has already come to bring salvation, and because we have the hope of His return, we are compelled to live lives that reflect His grace and truth. Our faith isn’t just about what we do—it’s about why we do it. We live differently because the gospel changes everything. The Grace of God Has Appeared Titus 2:11–15 ESV 11 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, 12 training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, 13 waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, 14 who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works. 15 Declare these things; exhort and rebuke with all authority. Let no one disregard you. In Titus 2:11–15, Paul gives us the ultimate reason why we must live differently from the culture around us: the grace of God has been revealed in Jesus Christ. This isn’t just abstract theology—it’s a transformative truth that changes everything about how we live. Paul writes, “The grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people” (Titus 2:11, ESV). Grace isn’t just a concept or a distant promise; it entered our world in the person of Jesus. This grace is available to everyone, regardless of who we are or where we come from. It’s not earned or exclusive—it’s a gift that redefines our lives and compels us to live in a way that reflects its power. But this grace doesn’t just change the way we think; it shapes the way we live right now. Paul describes grace as a teacher, showing us how to reject ungodliness and worldly passions and instead live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives (Titus 2:12). In a world that often glorifies excess, indulgence, and instant gratification, grace calls us to something better. It equips us to turn away from fleeting pleasures and focus on what truly matters: living in a way that honors God and reflects His character. This transformation is both present and future-focused. Paul reminds us that we are “waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ” (Titus 2:13, ESV). Grace not only teaches us how to live today, but it also keeps our eyes on the future—on the hope of Christ’s return. This hope reorients our priorities, reminding us to invest in eternal values rather than chasing after temporary distractions. At the core of this change is Jesus Himself, who “gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works” (Titus 2:14, ESV). His sacrifice wasn’t just about forgiving us; it was about transforming us into a people who reflect His character. Our lives—our words, actions, and attitudes—are meant to be living testimonies of this grace, showing the world how it changes and renews. Paul’s charge is clear: this truth is not just for us to hold quietly. It’s meant to be proclaimed boldly and lived out visibly. We are called to be different because the grace of God has appeared, and our lives must reflect the hope and transformation it brings. So, what can we take home from all this? How does Titus 2 shape the way we live today, together as followers of Christ? Let’s look at three key takeaways that can guide us as we seek to live differently in a world that often pulls us in the opposite direction. 1. Live with Purpose and Integrity in the Present Age (Titus 2:11-12) We are called to live with self-control, integrity, and godliness in a world that often celebrates indulgence, dishonesty, and self-interest. Together, we can commit to living with a clear sense of purpose that reflects the grace of God in our lives. This means prioritizing what matters most—relationships, serving others, and honoring God in our daily choices. Think about how easy it is to get swept up in what the world chases after—status, possessions, fleeting pleasures. But as a community of believers, we can encourage one another to step back and ask, What truly honors God? For us, this might look like managing our time differently, being intentional in our conversations, or choosing to serve rather than to take. By living soberly, righteously, and godly, we can stand out as lights in the darkness, pointing others to the grace that transforms us. 2. Model Christlike Love and Service (Titus 2:3-5, 9-10) Paul’s words challenge us to live in ways that reflect the selfless love of Jesus. Whether we’re mentoring someone younger in faith, offering guidance to a coworker, or simply showing kindness to a neighbor, we all have opportunities to model Christlike service. Let’s think together about what this could look like for us as a church or a small group. Maybe it’s stepping into a role where we encourage one another, like older believers sharing their wisdom with younger ones. Or maybe it’s serving in a way that costs us something, whether it’s our time, energy, or resources. We can also think about the people who might feel overlooked—how can we, together, show them they are loved and valued? As we serve, we reflect the humility and grace of Christ, showing the world what it means to live for something greater than ourselves. 3. Live in Hope of Christ’s Return (Titus 2:13) This is a big one. We’re not just called to live differently in the here and now; we’re called to live with a hope that points to eternity. The world around us often thrives on temporary joys or is weighed down by anxiety and despair. But we know something deeper—our hope is in Christ, and we live in anticipation of His return. Together, we can help each other keep our focus on this eternal hope. When life feels heavy, we remind one another of the promise of restoration. When distractions threaten to pull us away, we encourage each other to look up. We don’t have to do this alone; we walk this road together as people who believe that Jesus is coming again to make all things new. So let’s live with purpose, model love and service, and hold fast to the hope we have in Christ. As we do, we show the world a glimpse of God’s kingdom and reflect the grace that has already appeared—and the glory that is yet to come. Conclusion As we reflect on Paul’s words in Titus, the challenge for us is clear: we are called to live differently. In a world driven by self-interest, indulgence, and fleeting pursuits, we are to live with purpose, rooted in the grace of God. Our lives should reflect the hope we have in Christ—not just in His first coming, but in His promised return. Let’s embrace this calling together. Let’s live in such a way that our actions point others to the truth of the gospel, our hope reminds the world that something greater is coming, and our love reflects the grace we’ve received.